Anonymous asked: Hey Kate! I need some advice. My boyfriend and I were best friends for 2 years before we started going out in November last year. Everything feels right and there is nothing greater then doing life and ministry together. I am 20 and he is 22 and we both are struggling physically alot as everything seems so right. We feel that it's only natural to get married and do that soon but I don't know if we are rushing it. Do you have any thoughts from your own relationship with C? Thanks in advance:)
I’m not a counselor of any kind. However, I’d be very wary of any couple deciding to get married because it’s hard physically. That is going to be a temptation for any couple. Believe me. But if the question at hand is marriage… I don’t think your ages really should have any major say on whether or not you should get married. People of all ages have been getting married since the beginning of time.
Time (for relationships) is a funny thing and it’s different for every couple. I know people who have been married for 40+ years after getting engaged 5 days after just meeting, and people who dated for 5-10 years and then got married. It’s seriously all over the place. C and I met last June 1st. We are getting married this coming June 1st. But everyone is different because Gods timing is different for each of us.
Our (C and mine) advice would be to pray about it. Another helpful tid bit for C and I was to seek guidance from the wise and older people around us who were/are invested in both of our lives. Seek out the Lord together on it. Trust His way before your own. And yeah… I would honestly just pray about it. Give it all up to God and His timing. I think any and everything should just be drenched in prayer. Especially our relationships. They truly need it, and we truly need to trust God with them. He’s good. And He’s worthy of all our trust. :) I struggle with this all the time, but He is faithful to each of us despite our short comings. So yeah, seek Him out together on it.
I hope this helps you guys! And fight for purity in your relationship. :) You’ll be so thankful you did in the long run. :) C and I are fighting with you. You’re not alone in that one bit.